Pushing the delete button

When you leave a comment… it makes me smile.  Most of the time.  Let me explain.

I have my blog set up to automatically email me whenever I get a comment from somebody on my blog.  Since I have a smart phone that is always with me, I am notified of your comment the moment you send it to me (unless I'm in a meeting at work, that is…).  So all through the day, I get your delightful responses to articles on the blog.  I love to read what you are doing / thinking / stitching, etc.  And if I'm having “one of THOSE days,” your comments often provide the lift that I need just when I need it most.  (Example:  @Annemart for being such a supportive new friend!)
I also receive email comments that are not so uplifting, such as when a spammer (@Keith!) tries to promote his junk on my blog, or when a reader goes off on a rant about something that is not in any way related to the blog article they claim to have just read.  OR when several comments are left by quilters who are simply expressing their own opinion or process (which is fine), and then someone comes along and starts an argument about the previous opinions. It's an OPINION.  Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Just don't try and start a fight or condemn somebody on my blog!  My readers are my friends!  I don't need them assaulted verbally!  These kinds of comments also arrive on my smart phone, and immediately send me to the blog article to delete the comment.
I use my delete button strategically and carefully.  I think about it before it is pushed.  
I deleted four comments this morning for various reasons that I felt were justified. It is, after all, MY blog.  I love it when you come by, pour yourself a warm beverage and read, look around, and leave a comment.  Sometimes it feels like you've walked into my living room and we're sitting down having a chat.
Imagine how you'd feel if someone walked into your living room and started arguing with you or throwing nasty comments around?
DELETE.   

                                       

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14 thoughts on “Pushing the delete button

  1. I can't believe this even happens! I guess I live a sheltered life, and speaking of life it is way to short to be so unhappy. One of the reasons I hand quilt is its calming effect maybe they need to try it!

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  2. Hi Caron. You are doing the right thing when you delete bad comments. I have a polecy to only leave a comment when I have something nice to say. I am like you and want to make friends all over the world. Keep up the good spirit:-)

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  3. Oh goodness! I would hate that too, if someone came to my blog and started an argument. I really hate arguing and find not many good reasons for it, so I understand your need for the delete button.

    I'm thankful for your blog. It's always uplifting and fun.

    Wishing you a joyous weekend!

    Sue

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  4. Caron, you have done so much to join quilters together and it is greatly appreciated. I suppose, knowing you have many readers, those commenters are looking for a wider audience for their rantings. I feel sorry for them and also sorry for you that you are irked.

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  5. I bet those cookies you are offering are ZERO CALORIES, ZERO FAT and so tasty!

    I do the same on my blog; I delete or do not allow posting unless the comment is germain to the topic being discussed. If it is an advertisement or so vague I can not tell if the poster is actually posting a comment. Many poster are trying to redirect traffic to their sales site… I usually tell by their URLs.

    ANNA

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  6. I was learned by Thumper from Bambi (actually the mother of Thumper):
    If you can't say something nice, say nothing at all.

    And that's all there is…
    You inspire me, I hope I inspire you. That's what we're here for in the world!

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  7. I wish more people understood this and you said it well! I don't want people advertising under the pretext of leaving a comment. Everyone can have an opinion, just as you said, but blog owners get the final say. My blog, after all, is MY blog, just as yours is yours. I love reading about hand quilting and that's why I visit!!!

    Cookies? There are cookies???

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  8. I'm happy to say I have not encountered this. It always amazes me when people feel it's necessary to say unpleasant things, it rarely achieves anything good. I was raised with the “if you haven't anything nice to say, say nothing at all” maxim. It would be better if you never had to do it, but thank goodness you have a DELETE button.
    Merry Christmas.

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  9. I cant imagine that anyone could have anything to argue about when one is talking about quilting. If one doesnt quilt, or like to quilt then there is nothing to talk about. We all quilt in different ways and quilting means something different to each of us-still cant see anything to argue about. I personally think all quilts are beautiful in their own way-whether was use templates or strip quilting,tie them, quilt them by machine or by hand-it all makes a quilt-I thought people only argued about money, politics, sex and religion, not quilts!

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