A Treasure Worth Keeping: A Stitcher’s sad discovery

If you are a quilter or a seamstress of any kind, you have probably been told that you should ALWAYS sign and date your work for future generations.  I have done pretty well keeping up with that tradition on any quilts or other fabric work that I have completed.  But sadly, not everyone in my family (my ancestors) did so.

Mom.jpgMy mother passed away in 2007.  She was raised in The Episcopal  Childrens’ Home in Pittsburgh., PA.   I always knew her to be a talented seamstress.  She sewed my clothes when I was young, and even made my prom dress.  Mom had a best friend, Alma, and they were buddies all through school.  I am the owner of a quilt that she made for Alma’s daughter after she was born.  Unfortunately, she did not sign the quilt at the time, so I don’t know what year it was made.  Alma lived in Las Vegas, and we lived in Michigan. I only saw her once.  After Alma died, her daughter contacted me and asked for my mailing address.

She wantquilt.disney.jpged to ship the quilt to me so that I would have it.   She said she had “no need for it,” as she was not going to have any children and wouldn’t need a crib quilt.  She didn’t see a reason to keep her baby quilt.  My heart was heavy after hearing that.

Somehow or another, at some point in time, my mom learned how to sew.  I don’t know who taught her, but I DO know that she taught me well.  I have her old Singer Sewing machine in my sewing area, and would never part with it.  My dear husband spent a lot of time cleaning it up so that it sews like a charm.  Mom taught me how to sew a straight line when I was quite young, how to sew buttonholes, and so much more.  Those times togeMom1.jpgther are precious memories.

As I mentioned above, mom passed away in 2007.  My father recently moved from Michigan to Phoenix, Arizona.  He is now going on 96, and is in an assisted living facility.  My brother lives nearby.  We are in the process of preparing for an estate sale at his home.  If you have ever had to do a sale such as this, you know how grueling it is.  Because his home is in Michigan, and we are close by, my husband and I are primarily the ones who are taking care of his property and the preparations for the sale.  In going through an old trunk in his home, I came across something that I found to be very interesting.

This embroidered object, above, which I believe to be a pillow cover, was found in a trunk in their bedroom.  I assume that mom made it, however I have no proof other than it has her name embroidered on it.  I can also see the precision in her machine stitching.  Mom4.jpg

Take a peek at the close-up! I also don’t know when it was made, or for what purpose.  I would LOVE to have that information; alas, I am almost certain I will never know.

Also in the trunk, buried at the bottom, were five sweaters which, over the years, were made by me for my dad.  They were never, ever worn by my father, or by anyone else for that matter.  Each was wrapped in the plastic bag in which I put them many years ago.  They are now sitting on the couch in his home, waiting to be purchased by someone at the Estate Sale.

This is a lengthy post, however it has a purpose.  Please, please, please, when you make something for someone, or even something to keep for yourself, include your name and the date on the item.  If there is a purpose or event that the item is meant for, mention that!  Future generations will want to know who you are, who the item was for, and when it was made.  If you want to add even more information, please do so!  Your work is a treasure… share it with others!

The Future is Now!

It dates back to around 1975 or 76… a strong longing for time to myself; Time to sew, to clear a space in the house in which to keep my sewing machine and ironing board set up permanently. A design wall to hang quilts-in-progress… where I can pin into the wall and not worry about the holes I create. A place where my fabric can relax in a cabinet all folded nicely – or not; arranged by color – or not. An office of my own where I can sit and write… but most of all, time. I read a quote recently that is on my mind now on a regular basis: “Time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time.” The quote is attributed to John Lennon, however I have also seen it attributed to other individuals as well. But for me, the thing that puts a smile on my face more than anything is that time is now MINE. I can (mostly) do with it what I want. I am now retired! Those things that I wished for long ago have mostly come true.

I’m sitting in my office with a laptop computer on my desk. My fabric storage cabinet is downstairs, stocked with fabrics of all colors and patterns. They are “sort of” grouped by color, but could all use a good pressing. My design wall has a barn on it… a barn quilt, that is, in an artsy style. It will get finished one of these days.

I’ve been working on a quilt for one of my grandsons, piecing it all by hand. It will also get hand quilted. I made Fischer a quilt just like the one shown below.  Fischer’s favorite color is blue, so I dove into my stash of blue fabrics, all selected randomly and put into place with no precision. His little cousin Carson will get one almost identical for Christmas this year. I know he will also love his quilt  and use it daily.  And both little guys will help me use up my stash of blue fabrics.  YAY!  


So, my friends, welcome to my future! I’m loving it, looking forward to designing some new quilts for me, for family, and… for whatever. I will be writing more, posting more, and sharing more with you. Feel free to ask what you want. I’ll respond as best I can and try to include as many pictures as possible. Please share your thoughts and your projects as well, and let’s make this future a real blast!

Ask Caron

If you have been reading recent blog posts on caronmosey.com, you know that I was blessed to have had an awesome neighbor (Mary Schafer) who was a talented quilter.  I could ask her question after question about quilting, and she very patiently would answer all my questions with her opinions and provide suggestions to me along the way.  Her years of experience and knowledge were so valuable to me!

Not everyone is so blessed!  But if you have a quilting question and would like a friend to give you a suggestion, please feel free to ask me.  I will email you back privately and give you my response to whatever quilt issue you are dealing with.  In addition, I will be sending out tips and tricks on a regular basis to quilters who have subscribed to the ASK Caron list.  So HOP ON BOARD and let’s get to know each other.  NOTE:  Because I speak English, I am sadly not able to assist those of any other language.

Please sign up by emailing me , and I will email you back with my contact information.  Once you have my info, let’s get to know each other and we can work together to talk about quilting fun and any question you might have that you need assistance with.  Please note that your contact information will NOT be shared with anyone else.  If you have any questions, ASK Caron!

Pre-washing Fabric for Quilting

If you are a quilter, it won’t take you long to find a lot of mixed information on pre-washing fabric to be used in quiltmaking. Every quilter has their own answer to the “Should I pre-wash?” or “Shouldn’t I pre-wash ? dilemma.

As a life-long hand-quilter, I learned long ago that I will not risk damaging expensive fabric by NOT pre-washing.  I have seen what happens when I put a navy blue or red solid cotton fabric into a sink or washing machine with hot water and solid white fabric. It is not pretty, at least I don’t think so.  Thus, I pre-wash everything as soon as it comes home in my shopping bag.  You choose what you want to do.  It’s your decision. Totally.

I have had many quilters ask me the same question:  “But what if you buy a precut fabric pack such as those “5- inch charm squares” or any other size pre-cut fabric pack? How do you pre-wash THOSE?

mesh laundry bag

That is an easy question to answer, and it doesn’t cost much at all.

  • Invest in a couple of mesh laundry bags or a Lingerie Washing Bag set.
  • Open the zipper and insert a handful of fabrics that have the same color value (Example, your bag might have all red fabrics in it.)
  • Fill your kitchen sink with HOT water and DAWN dishwashing detergent.
  • Throw the bag into the hot water. Swish it around for a few minutes, then walk away.
  • Leave the bag in the sink for about 30 minutes, then look at the water.  If it looks like it has  a red or pink hue to it, pull out the bag, squeeze the excess water out of it, and fill the sink up with hot water and Dawn detergent again.
  • Repeat the soaking process until your water no longer has a color showing up in the water.
  • Drain bag and gently squeeze out the water.
  • Then soak the bag and its fabric contents for about 10 minutes in COLD WATER.
  • Rinse, soak, repeat until you no longer see any color.
  • Toss the bag with it contents into your dryer and let the dryer do its thing.  You might need to press your fabric when you are finished, but your fabric will be safe and you will not have red (or any other color) staining on your white fabrics.
  • The end.  Easy Peasy.

Where Were You When I Needed the Basics, Part II

Earlier this year, construction began on my husband’s new woodworking studio.  While my husband (Dean) could have built the building himself, he knew that he wanted a crew of construction workers who were SKILLED in their area.  He hired “All Phase Construction” and was extremely pleased with their work… every bit of it.  The construction team worked as a team, BUT as a team they each had their own special role in the process.  Some of them were experts in putting up the walls, some were talented installing the rafters, some did cement work or framing, etc.  They were taught by specialists to be the best they could be, at whatever their role was.

Dean and I were especially blown away by the electrician.  He came to the site knowing ahead of time that the studs and rafters would all be in place… perfectly.  A great deal of precision was expected of the construction team, and they did not let him down.  “Jim” set to work drilling holes for the wiring, and began feeding the wiring through those holes.  When we showed up at the end of the day, we were blown away by the precision.  All of the holes for the wiring were lined up in perfectly straight lines.  The wiring went through the holes perfectly straight.  And I can’t express enough how precise they were!  I could stand at one corner of the shop and sight down the length of the building and not see any wire bending anywhere.  The level of precision this gentleman showed was just amazing.  “Jim” was an expertly skilled craftsman and we were happy to have him on the team.

As I mentioned earlier in this post, Dean is a woodworker.  He is a fifth-generation woodworker, a skill brought over from England and passed through his mother’s side of the family down to him.  While Dean took woodshop classes in high school, it was his family and his years of experience that taught him the most.  He has built and sold so many pieces of furniture and artwork through the past 40+ years that we have lost count. He has refinished museum-quality pieces and been asked to restore items that have been destroyed by fire and flood.  All of his knowledge took time to learn, practice, and improve upon.  It didn’t happen overnight.  

As with  any craft or skill, learning takes time.  You learn best by studying other craftsmen, watching what they do, asking lots of questions, and trying your best to put what you have learned into everything you do.

When I wrote the post previous to this one, “Where were you when I needed the basics? Part I,” I shared it in a Facebook group I started called “Celebrate Hand Quilting.  Sadly, it caused a typical “argument” among several quilters instead of having a meaningful conversation.  No matter what skill or task you undertake, you ALWAYS do your best when you learn as much as you can about that skill.  Consider a high school student wanting to be a lifeguard.  Do you want that student to learn the most and be the best he can be before watching your sweet grandchild swim in the pool or lake?  You betcha!   What about that fireman/firewoman?  Don’t they need to learn as much as they can before they rescue someone from a burning building?  How about the airline pilot who is responsible for getting you and your family from one side of the country to the other?  I would surely expect that pilot to have proper training and skills to be able to handle that plane from one airport to the other.  I would WANT that pilot to have the knowledge that “Sully” Sullenberger had when he brought down a plane in the Hudson River!  Knowledge and skills… practice and patience… no matter what you do, always try and do your best.  Always!  It’s perfectly alright to ask questions, to ask  the “why” and “how” when you just don’t know.

Quilters, we need to lose the phrase “Quilt Police.”  When someone shows you a different way to stitch something, just say “THANK YOU” and move along.  Think about it later.  You might just be blessed to have someone like Mary Schafer show you a better way.  There will always be know-it-alls  wherever you go.  If you can’t tune them out, then simply smile and say, “Sorry, I need to leave…”

Where were you when I needed the basics?

I often wish that I had a grandmother or aunt who knew how to quilt.  I was a self-taught quilter who first learned a thing or two about sewing on an old Singer featherweight that my mother had.  Mom drew lines on typing paper and showed me how to thread the needle and then follow those same lines with needle and thread.  It took me quite awhile, but eventually I caught on.

I had a friend who was expecting her first baby when I was a freshman in college.  I had very little money to purchase anything for the baby, but my mom DID have scraps of fabric lying around.  Mom was a seamstress who sewed most of my clothes, so most fabrics that I found in our home were plaid wool, lining fabrics, and any shirting fabric that I could get my hands on.  Certainly not quilting fabric, that’s for darn sure!

I managed to find enough scraps lying around to create a pretty pitiful baby quilt.  And yes, it was pitiful.  I didn’t know that a quilt required a layer of batting between the front and the back!  You see, I didn’t have a quilt on my bed, and I didn’t even have a quilt in my house.  But I DID read about quilts in a book at the library, just never noticed that there was something called “batting” that gave it that puffy look.  My first batting was about two inches thick.  (Yes, I’m probably making that up; It was more like 1.5 inches thick.)  I somehow managed to make something that resembled a quilt and presented it to my friend.  Fortunately, she gave me a nice smile and told me how special it was.  Yeah, right.  It was a mess!

A few years later, my husband and my two sons and I moved into a house a few blocks down the road.  Much to my delight, my next door neighbor was a fabulous (and famous) quilter.  Her name was Mary Schafer, and what a blessing she was!  Mary had a habit of popping in on me, sewing supplies in one hand, a basket of fabrics in the other.  She taught me what quilting was all about.  Sometimes we sat on my couch and sewed.  Sometimes we sat on her living room floor and sewed.  Oh, the great conversations we had!  I learned so much about quilting!

Mary taught me the right way to hand piece a quilt, how to sew on a binding, and how to block the quilt when it was completed.  She showed me how to roll up a finished quilt so that it didn’t get creased when I folded it up for storage.  I learned how to tie a proper quilter’s knot, and how to sew a binding with a bias edge.

There is something special about learning the “proper” way to accomplish a task.  The skill is made even more special when you have a loving, talented teacher like Mary.

If Mary were around now, she would be confused by the phrase, “Quilting Police.”  You see , not only did Mary teach me how to quilt properly, but she also taught me a lot about plants.  Mary loved to garden!  And time after time, she would have me over to her yard to look at a special plant.  She taught me how to propagate plants so as to multiply them to replant in another area… usually in my yard!  If you don’t do it correctly, the plants will die.  There IS a right and wrong way with plants, just as there is with quilting.  So was Mary a part of the “plant police?”  Yes and no.

Today, the phrase “Quilting Police” is used more than it should be.  For some reason today’s quilters don’t like to be told how do do something.  I don’t know if it is because they don’t want to be “bossed around,” or whether they just don’t have an older friend or relative or knowledgeable person around to provide guidance.  Rather than bask in the friendship of the joy of quilting, I’m sad to hear about quilters who don’t seem to WANT to learn various techniques.

How do YOU feel about that?

You’re Never Too Old to be Bullied

As parents and teachers, we talk to our children about bullies and how to deal with them.  When we think of bullies, we usually think about someone like Scut Farkus, the bully in the movie, “A Christmas Story.”  Or you might think about the kid in your gym class who punched you when the gym teacher wasn’t looking.  In my junior high gym class, there were a couple bullies who would run by and steal your clothes while you were taking the mandatory shower, and then hide them in a remote part of the building, never to be seen again.

As a child, we assumed that bullies don’t grow up.  We were wrong.  Bullies are out there, now in their adult form.  In his article, “The 5 Most Common Types of Adult Bullying,” Preston Ni M.S.B.A. paints a different picture of bullying today, and I’m sad to say that yes indeed, bullies do grow up, and they are not pretty or nice.  They are called “adults,” though their actions do not reflect the behavior we would assume they could be capable of in their day to day lives.

I was bullied a lot as a child.  I mean, A LOT.  One of the most common forms of bullying I have seen as an adult and witnessed first-hand to this day is Passive-aggressive or covert bullying. This is a less-frequently mentioned form of bullying. With many bullies, you can see them coming because they are quick to make their intimidating presence known. A passive-aggressive or covert bully, however, behaves appropriately on the surface, but “takes you down with subtlety.*

Examples of passive-aggressive and covert bullying include negative gossip, negative joking at someone’s expense, sarcasm, condescending eye contact, facial expression or gestures, mimicking to ridicule, deliberately causing embarrassment and insecurity, the invisible treatment, social exclusion, professional isolation, and deliberately sabotaging someone’s well-being, happiness, and success.  Examples may also include a small group gathering behind a closed door, leaving out that one single individual who can clearly see you talking behind his or her back and know they have been left out of the discussion on purpose.

Many of us probably remember a time as a child when our names were left off the invitation list to a birthday party.  Jump ahead 20-30 years when a group of your peers gathered together for a meal, celebration, or a similar party.  Everyone who should have been invited was, EXCEPT FOR THAT ONE PERSON, time after time.  It still happens!

The digital age has brought us a new era of instant communication, and with it, cyber bullying.  It ruins peoples lives… people of ALL ages.  According to Facebook, “Cyberbullying is the use of technology to harass, threaten, embarrass, or target another person. Online threats and mean, aggressive, or rude texts, tweets, posts, or messages all count. So does posting personal information, pictures, or videos designed to hurt or embarrass someone else.

As adults, we should be grown up enough to not be the attacker, but to notice when others are attacked and provide them with compassion and friendship.

Many school districts are including lessons about anti-bullying at all age levels.  Perhaps it is appropriate for classes to be made available for adults as well. What do you think?

*from Preston Ni, M.S.B.A.